Paradigm
- Dictionary definition: A set of assumptions, concepts, values and
practices that constitute a way of viewing reality for the community that
shares them.
Let me break it down in a less boring way.
Imagine yourself wearing a pair of glasses.
Would you see clearly? Picture yourself driving with a broken windshield. Would
you go far?
A paradigm is like a pair of glasses or a windshield.
It is the eyes we use to see the world. And how we see the world influences how
we act.
For example, I was always TOLD that dogs
are vicious monstrous creatures. To make things better, we had two huge German
Shepherds growing up. I would NEVER leave the house if they weren’t in their
kennels. I would imagine that if I ever met with them, they’d tear me to
pieces. This fear grew with me till adulthood. It was so profound that if I saw
a dog lying on the road, I’d go back to wherever it is I was coming from.
A few months ago, I visited the countryside
and there were dogs everywhere. One day, while I was home alone, a huge puppy
came running towards me. I thought, “This is it! Goodbye cruel world.” But she
just licked my hands and smiled. I couldn’t say that I got over my fear of
dogs that day but after constant exposure that fear faded.
Now there are many things that we are told
as children or even adults. Many times people didn’t actually say it but you
could see it through their actions. You
are too slow, you’re not smart enough, you are too fat, you are not strong
enough, you’ll never amount to anything, you are not as pretty as she is, why
can’t you be like him… And the list is endless.
These distorted views end up affecting our lives from
our relationships, to our careers, our finances and even our happiness.
However, the good news about paradigms is
that they can be changed. It all starts with looking at your beliefs. What are
they and where do they come from? Are they true?
People project their own flaws onto you.
For example, a person who chooses to talk to people of a certain class, race or
social status, only shows how shallow THEY are. It has nothing to do with you.
A parent who favors a child over another because they are athletic, shows how
flawed THEY are. Has nothing to do with you. A teacher who says you'll never amount to anything, shows how incompetent THEY are. It has absolutely nothing to do with you.
When we were children, we took everything
as gospel truth. As adults we can CHOOSE to IGNORE the negativity and only
believe the TRUTH about ourselves.
We can CHANGE our paradigms. We can dig deeper into who we really are as opposed as to what people want us to be.
And it all
starts with changing our beliefs. Here’s one… You are fearfully and wonderfully
made. Don’t let anyone tell you anything different.
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